Just your friendly gay man setting the record straight.
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It’s time to showcase those money makers, honey. Ripple them buns and get the boys gagging on your fine behind!

But first, you need a smashing hit, one that’s fly like apple pie and spicier than a drag queen’s tongue. And girl, have I got the goods for you…

Whenever you need a pick-me-up, throw on one of these tunes and waltz down your local thoroughfare. Revel in the confidence of a bona fide strut — cause girl, you deserve it!

Boys by Lizzo

The ultimate goal of a strut-worthy anthem is the BPM. It’s gotta be on point…


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I’m gonna let you in on a little secret here: your mind is not an all-seeing god. It can produce misinformation quicker than a QAnon quack — and, if you’re not observant enough, you’ll believe it. So, sometimes you need to look at the matter before you make up your mind.

As a writer, one of the greatest pieces of misinformation I deal with is not being good enough. At times I stupidly believed it, only taking in the immediate issues. A blog post fails to get one view or a reader voices their disgust. Or, worst of all, I…


Just your friendly gay man setting the record straight.

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Apart from the rigmarole of coming out to every person you meet and answering ignorant questions, sometimes it is easier being gay. For one, we don’t have to deal with the patriarchy that still permeates modern society. Men know what men want, and women know what women want.

There’s no separation of the sexes.

Which, on some level, makes finding sex so much easier. I don’t have to worry about wasting money on a date when I can browse Grindr for a potential fuck. Just share some niceties and then get down to business. Are you top or bottom? What…


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And so we’ve come to the end of an era that is almost bittersweet — because as much as Trump has been a headache on our news feeds, we’ve had some great entertainment throughout. Most especially from the musical extraordinaire Randy Rainbow.

His parodies of the Trump era are juicy concoctions of comedy, helping many of us navigate the weird and wacky statements and actions of America’s now-former president Donald Trump.

Within those parody videos are 10 of my absolute favourites. …


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Most listicles like this are filled with books that the author hasn’t read. But I can assure you that I have read each of these gay memoirs from start to finish and loved them immensely. They are exquisite narratives that reach deep into the heart of queer life.

The best part about these gay memoirs is how they challenge the current queer literary landscape, revealing the raw truth of male sexuality. This is vastly different from the privileged coming out stories we’ve seen in fictional works like Call Me By Your Name and Love, Simon. …


Is he really worth starting another civil war over? Seriously?

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I feel like the realistic friend sitting down with their heartbroken buddy and telling them she isn’t worth getting emotional over. But, as we’ve seen with the riots at Capitol Hill, it’s safe to say that y’all have issues…

Of course, it’s not a loving relationship you’re looking for. It’s not like your soon-to-be former president Donald Trump is going to hug you tightly and tell you he’s sorry and that he desperately wants you back. You were looking to drain the swamp and make America great again. Am I right?!

So you’ve held onto hope that Donald Trump would…


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While abstinence is by far the best way to avoid viral infections, let’s face it: a pandemic doesn’t dampen the libido. If it did, we’d have refrained from sex during the HIV epidemic. And while a mutual jerk-off sounds like great advice, we all know that another person’s hand (or mouth) is better.

So, rather than waste time telling you to suppress your carnal appetites, I’m going to take the smarter option and tell you how to have sex safely during this Covid pandemic.

Stick to one sexual partner

The best way to avoid spreading sexually transmitted infections is by sticking to one sexual partner…


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Thirty-three years ago, Former President Ronald Reagan pondered optimistically on how an alien invasion would unite the world. Unfortunately, rather than tackling his central theme, we launched conspiracy theories about possible alien invasions — clearly missing the point.

“And yet,” he continued, “I ask you, is not an alien force already among us? What could be more alien to the universal aspirations of our peoples than war and the threat of war?”

Of course, war is a human characteristic. It’s not really that alien to us. Even the Neanderthals went to war. But what is alien to us, at least…


When it comes to life, there’s no greater cause for alarm than the act of turning 30.

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Society has built up an ongoing ideal that you have to do everything before your 30, and that’s not entirely true for everyone. Indeed, many of you will have worked towards a career or strived to get married and have children, or even gone on a working holiday around the world — but that’s not everyone’s path. I, myself, have just turned 30 in the midst of a pandemic and my career is still stretched out in front of me. …


And I don’t even take PrEP!

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So there I was, chatting to this gorgeous hunk of a man on Grindr. We had swapped pics and personal preferences and I was keen for action. In fact, I could wrestle in bed with him till dawn and it was only 9pm!

And then he asks…

“Do you take PrEP?”

“No, I prefer condoms,” I reply.

“Oh, I’m on PrEP. Is that okay?”

“Yeah, I prefer using condoms, though. It’s safer.”

“Damn, I was wanting to take that cock raw.”

“Would you be okay with using condoms?”

“Nah…”

And then he blocked me, leaving me raging for sex with…

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