Why Are Gay Men Still Shallow?

Just your friendly gay man setting the record straight

Christopher Kelly
3 min readJun 19, 2021

Considering the fact that homosexuality was a criminal offence for most of the 20th century, gay men being shallow makes sense. We had to constantly be on our game, picking up who’s really interested or who might just be a cop. Or who might be keen on a gay bashing. It’s not like we were able to freely date anyone. But since we’re now a fifth of the way through the new century, where homosexuality is decriminalised through most of the western world, why are so many gay men still shallow?

When one questions shallowness among gay men, it’s almost impossible to not mention Grindr. It’s by far the shallowest place to be. You may find a diamond in the rough, but most of the men there are looking for simple, meaningless sex. And, perhaps, this is because Grindr transcends societies. In other words: It is used in countries that criminalise homosexuality.

Unfortunately, the hook-up way of using Grindr bleeds into western culture. It’s not only seen in the discreet profiles but even the ones who sport superficiality. Using the best angles, utilising the best pickup lines, showcasing abs and sharing specifications rather than their personal self. When they ask how you are at the beginning, it’s more a way of assessing their chances than really wanting to know…