The Difference Between Trans Women and Cis Women

…and why trans women are still women

Christopher Kelly
2 min readJun 11, 2021
Image: Tim Mossholder via Unsplash

We have to accept that trans women will never experience the same puberty that many cisgender women go through. But does that really diminish the right for trans women to call themselves women? I doubt it. Because not all cisgender women go through the “ideal” puberty.

So, under the infantile argument that trans women aren’t women because they don’t experience womanhood, by that same token some cis women aren’t really women, too.

On top of that, some of us who get periods aren’t really “women” as well. Not entirely. Intersex people, who are born with mixed-sex characteristics, fall between the boundaries of male and female. And some who appear as male — with hairy chests and chiseled jawlines — have working vaginas. And many of them consider themselves male, even though they’ve never experienced their own working cock. How can they be male if they’ve never tugged their own sausage?

Perhaps being ‘female’ is more about femininity? That you must prance around in dresses and wear heels. Well, I dare you to go and tell that to all the blokey ladies out there.

And does that mean real men are hairy, muscley and good at punching things? Well, not every man lives up to this ideal, and yet they are still men. Just like many women can portray masculine traits, while still calling themselves real women.

The thing is, being a woman goes beyond sex characteristics and personality traits. It’s an identity, and we all have the right to portray our ideal identity. The only people who should really care what’s below a woman’s skirt is her doctor or whoever she’s fucking. And if you’re truly worried about her personality traits, then how superficial can you get?

Also, a trans woman calling herself a woman does not diminish a cisgender woman’s womanhood. They are not stealing your vaginas. You will still get your periods and you can be proud of that however you wish. And no, they are not downgrading women’s issues, either. They are simply being a part of it. Isn’t this what many feminists have wanted all along? For men to take a walk in women’s shoes? That way, they can understand what it’s like to be a woman and change the system to benefit all sexes.

The fact is, being a woman (or even a man for that matter) is a personal identity. There is no harm in accepting trans women as women, not unless you fabricate being a victim. In fact, accepting trans women as women will make you a more empathetic person.

And if you’re still concerned about what’s beneath her panties, then you better hope you’re her doctor or you’re fucking her.

Originally published at http://thegaystraighttalker.com on June 11, 2021.

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Christopher Kelly
Christopher Kelly

Written by Christopher Kelly

Just your friendly gay man setting the record straight.

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